See What Comparing Your kids To Other Kids Does To Them

Comparison is a daily lifestyle especially in this part of the world.
Parents see reasons why they should compare their child or ward probably they think it makes them improve.

In a lame man's language comparison means to compare one person, individual, things, events etc to see the similarities or difference. It may be positive or negative but in this content we looking at the negative.

It's a common thing in a typical Nigerian home for kids to hear things like "see so and so person she comes out first does she have two head" "See our neighbor, her daughter that you 4years older than does all the cooking while you here eating food... This are nothing compared to many comparison parents make of their children on daily basis

See What It Does To Them

Will be citing lots of example with myself and my family

1. Unhealthy competition: Comparison is one thing that stirs up unhealthy competition. I recur one certain time when I was in a 3months stay with a relative... I was loving, quiet, always smiling, not easily offended nor angry, did what I'm suppose to do at the right time, the reading and church going type to mention but a few. (No hypes lol) while the 18 years old Ward, is directly opposite of me. Most times her parents uses me to cite examples to her. Not quite long I started noticing heavy competition and eye service syndrome.

2.It makes them jealous of the other person/ It builds hatred:  See the other person is Miss Perfect to the child's parents he or she tends to be Jealous and harbour plenty of hatred for such person since it's the person that captures the parents fancy and may do all that his within his or power to bring the person down. Good example is the Philippine Soap Opera "Her Mother's Daughter" Celine and Margirl, Mara and Clara. This not withstanding, it could also make them feel their parents hate them and u know what that means. Sometime ago something happened...and my little niece was like ,"Aunt,mummy doesn't like me she hates me...".

3. Inferiority Complex: Most kids have lost confidence in themselves and abilities because of their parents sharp comparison about them and other children. They feel withdrawn and of no importance, they may grow with this into adulthood and may result into them needing constant approval  from people since their parents never gave it to them.

4. It makes them do something bad or crazy: Over times we've heard how parents pushed their children into making money either by crook or by hook through their constant nagging and complaints"Mr A Children just built house for them and you here... " I've sometime ago had a friend who resulted in doing 'anything' at all to get money because so he could get his parents approval.

This and many more... Does Comparison does to your children.

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